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RuPaul Discusses His Open Marriage In A Candid New Interview

RuPaul talks about his open marriage to Georges LeBar…

In a deeply personal interview with Vanity Fair, RuPaul Charles opens up about everything from identity and family to his work life. He even speaks candidly about his open marriage to husband Georges LeBar.

Throughout the nearly 16-minute video, RuPaul touches on an array of raw topics and gets more and more personal as the camera, set up on a dolly, steadily zooms in to his face.

When asked how he and his husband decided to have an open marriage, he answered simply and confidently: “We didn’t decide.” “The hoax,” he continued, “is that monogamy is something that can actually happen.”

“I wouldn’t want to put restraints on the person I love the most on this planet,” he told the magazine. “Listen, if you get something that you cannot resist and that is gonna make you happy, go for it. Because the truth is, I know in my heart of hearts like I’ve ever known anything before, that man loves me more than anything else in this world.”

RuPaul also opened up about how he met his husband. “I met Georges on the dancefloor at the Limelight Discotheque in 1994,” RuPaul said.

LaBar was standing at 6’8” plus platform shoes, and a very enamored RuPaul — who is himself 6’4’’ — asked if he could put his arms around the man’s shoulders. “I’m tall,” he continued. “I’ve never been able to put my arms around someone’s shoulders who was taller than me.”

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8 Comments

    Nick / 24 April 2021

    I respect that he is expressing his truth, but the blanket statement of “Monogamy is a hoax” I found an odd statement from someone who projects such intelligence and broad-mindedness. It puts us all in a box, and I think we’ve seen enough of that from the Herero-normative world.

      Janelle / 26 April 2021

      he didn’t say monogamy is a hoax. The “hoax” is that by “labelling” it as an open relationship, it became monogamous.

        Cicely Denice Smith / 03 January 2022

        exactly

    Shonda / 21 December 2019

    Hey RuPaul,
    Just because you are weak and debased with sexual immorality which makes it difficult for you to be with one partner does not mean the rest of us are. You have curated your lifestyle around like minded compatriots hundreds of whom sleep around and convince themselves MONOGAMY is a hoax. It is not Whenever they say 50% of marriages in the first 5 years fail they never mention the other 50% that don’t fail. They also don’t mention how divorce rate amongst Hollywierd couples is 68% as opposed to 42% overall for the rest of the regular world. Take your immoral ideology on relationship and shove it. If learnt to be faithful maybe your partner also would and maybe just maybe you too will find what true passion means aside of sex …. How sad some little boy sitting somewhere actually sees this immoral mind as role model spewing weakness as objectivity.

      Mel / 23 January 2021

      U have no right to judge them . only God and they can do that. As long as it does not harm you theres no problem with the way the live CHOOSE to live their lives Happily !!!

      Shonda’s nightmare / 25 September 2020

      Hahahaha well if you’re not giving it to your husband he’s getting it from someone else and you clearly need to get some, it helps with the bitc**

    Nightbird / 01 December 2019

    Monogamy is NOT a “hoax”. It exists in the animal kingdom..and it doesn’t get more natural than that. Of course people are complicated. Of course people are tempted. Of course people can live their lives as they see fit. But some of us only want ONE person to give our body, mind and spirit too. And others want something else. So live your life as you see fit..but don’t call something a “hoax” just because you don’t want it..don’t understand it..or it isn’t part of your lifestyle. That’s just ignorant..at best.

      Shannon / 12 July 2020

      I believe he was expressing that the “hoax” is that “monogamy is something that can actually happen” was in regards to himself and their relationship. I doubt very much that Rupaul thinks that monogamy doesnt exist and work of people.

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