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“The sun is shining but I’m a mess: I’ve fallen for a wonderful guy and we’ve been seeing each other for about eight months. Things with him are incredible but I’m a ball of nerves. I’m plagued by anxiety and fear that this is just a dream that is going to end as soon as I begin to relax into it. He makes me feel like a prince and has done nothing to confirm my fears of rejection, yet I can’t shake the feeling that I’m going to be left broken-hearted for someone sexier or more successful. Help!” 

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“After 12 years together it looks like my relationship with my partner is about to end. We’ve been struggling on and off for a few years and have recently both declared a desire to move on. When my last relationship ended, the process of separating was very traumatizing. The fighting and bitterness seemed to last forever and divvying up the stuff (and even friends) was brutal. Right now, things are at a standstill as neither of us seems willing to get the breakup train rolling. We live together so this will mean a lot of upheaval. Is there any way to do this with even a shred of grace and the preservation of my sanity?”

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“My friends have convinced me to try going online to resuscitate my dating life. While I’ve hooked up online for casual sex, I’ve never imagined that I could find a partner this way. I’ve had a profile up on a gay dating site for two weeks now and, although I’ve got flirtatious messages from a pretty wide mix of guys, it’s so hard to know how to approach this.”

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“My partner and I have been together for about 10 months and living together for the past two. The difference between our finances and earnings is beginning to grate. He makes quite a bit more than me and has a lot of savings. I make a decent living but have had to be frugal in ways that he is not used to. I’ve noticed my debt increase as our relationship progresses: I try, in vain, to keep up with his lifestyle (expensive dinners out, the latest technology, clothes…). Now with the annual gift-buying frenzy upon us, I’m really feeling the burn and I find myself resenting his spending. How can two people live happily together when one is making so much more than the other?”

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My partner and I have been together for four years and he recently took a one-year contract in another city that he just couldn’t pass up. We agreed to give the long-distance thing a go since it’s got a finite end in sight. Our relationship is pretty solid and we communicate quite well. I find myself missing him but when we speak by phone or Skype, I feel irritated that it’s not the real thing. We get to see each other every couple of months but then our hopes are so high that the time can feel a little strained and pressured. How do we cope?

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“My partner and I have been together for six years in an open relationship. We are happily each other’s main squeeze and have agreed to supplemental sex on the side. I’m a little worried about the frequency of my hookups over the past year. I meet guys at the gym, online and at a public washroom near work. I enjoy the sex but feel a little out of control. How do I know if I’m just a robustly horny guy or if I’m heading into sex rehab territory?”

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“I’ve been seeing my girlfriend for about eight months and I couldn’t be happier with her. About four months ago, we decided it was time for me to meet the two young children she has from her previous relationship. The kids stay with her every weekend and I’m pretty sure they’re not so fond of me. They seem to throw more tantrums when we’re all together and my attempts to ingratiate myself to them have fallen flat. While I understood their resistance to me at first, I’m beginning to fear that I’ll forever be slotted into the step-witch category. How can I convince them that I’m really on their team?”

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“The good news: I’m madly smitten with a woman I’ve now been seeing for just under a year. She is like no one I’ve ever met and our chemistry is fantastic. The bad news: I’m a 28-year-old proud lesbian who came out to myself, and my circle, when I was 19. For my girl, who is 34, I’m her first gay relationship. Despite saying that she is completely self-accepting of her sexuality, she has yet to tell any friends or family. This makes our social life awkward and makes me feel, at times, like I’ve rolled back into the closet again. I think she should be moving a little faster and am worried that it will never happen. Help!?”

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My partner and I have been mostly happy for six years in a committed monogamous relationship. About five months ago he admitted to having had an affair with someone he volunteers with. He is and has been consistently remorseful. We have talked extensively about what happened but I’m still struggling. I am still very much in love and feel that he is doing his best to reassure me that he knows what got him off the rails. How do I stop obsessing about this and regain my trust in him?

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 “Do you know if there is any research out there to support the notion that a person can safely be fluid bound to more than one person?”

Daniela

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