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Anyone who’s ever been to the Schomberg, Ont., home of Philip Beatty and Steven Frankowski knows that a subsequent invitation is not to be turned down. “Because of our busy schedules, we don’t get to entertain nearly as much as we’d like to,” says Frankowski, who works for Rolex Canada, an hour’s drive away in Toronto. “But when we do entertain, we like to pamper our guests.”

It’s 2:45 a.m. in Fort Lauderdale, and I can’t find a taxi. It was my first night out in Wilton Manors, a section of the Florida city popularly known as the gay village. It’s here that I’d spent one Wednesday night taking advantage of the $1 vodka sodas at Rumors (rumorsbarwiltonmanors.com), a popular watering hole located in the thick of village strip.

I feel caught in an ongoing fighting loop with my partner. Essentially, we are arguing about sex more than we’re actually having it. Our heated discussions, when they happen, seem to go on forever and don’t land anywhere positive. I’m often so sexually frustrated—I seem to want sex way more than he does, and I can’t even remember the last time I wasn’t the one to initiate. He would probably say that my need for sex comes across as nagging, while he needs it to feel more “organic.” But if I leave it just to chance it will never happen. I feel that if he really cared for me he would be more hot for sex with me. A lot of resentment has built up around this issue and we’re going on a three-month dry spell. How do we get out of this rut?